Prioritize Your Inner Child the Way Parents Prioritize Their Kids

Recently on the “No Labour Day Pains” Teleclass for Child-free Women to set new learning and growth intentions for the next 6-9 months, we had some good discussions around what our heart wants versus what we believe we have to do. 

It became clear as we shared, that there are inner child wounds or beliefs that were formed with our experiences with school when we were younger.  We were given a lot of feedback about who we should be, what we should do with our lives and what makes us a "good" person from teachers, parents and the school system. But very few people asked us what we care about.

The true guides or teachers care about what is in our hearts and encouraged this out of us. They didn't care if we got good grades, but rather they want to see what lit us up and inspired us.

For example, I loved English class.  It spoke about the realities and philosophies of people and the world. There was depth, meaning, ways of seeing in it that gave me a feeling of being understood in my life path, while also navigating the world around me. It took me to other places and gave me answers that I was looking for.  I loved literature. And it was the lowest mark I got in school.

I was great at math and accounting and typing. I was set up to be in the world a wonderful administrative assistant or business person.  My talents for the world weren’t what I cared about.  But it got me by, even to this day.  My inner yearning, though, was writing, reading and psychology. It was who I was at the core – a thinker and a feeler.

Recognizing this part of us that tunes into what we love, despite what others or the world wants from us, is part of our inner child.  As child-free women, we have a chance to grow within and tune into what really makes us happy, inspired, fulfilled or desiring to make a contribution to the world.  Because it is an invisible part of ourselves, it can feel like we can put it off, not listen to it, take care of the things around us and just keep going.   But what if you were to treat your inner child the way parents treat their own kids.  What if you said “no” at work because you had to take your inner child to piano lessons? Or you told your friends or family that they can’t come over because you are writing your book? Or you let go of a committee you are sitting on because your inner child wants to daydream, meditate and go for nature walks? You see, parents have an automatic “out” with certain obligations. As child-free women, it seems we have to find some excuses, outright lie or just take on more stuff because others think we have all the time in the world.

But your time, your inner child and what you do with it is what will lead you to staying balanced, healthy and whole. You need it just as much as the parent needs to spend time with their children (and inner child, for that matter!).

What boundaries can you set so your inner child is feeling inspired, fulfilled and energetic? 

If you would like to tune more into your passions, take a day away in nature and enjoy being with other child-free women who are living their path of truth, please come out to the Nourish Your Inner Donkey Self-Discovery Day for Child-free Women.  We all have the silly, wise fool of the donkey in each of us – and we need it to enjoy a life of meaning and purpose.  Click Here for More Details